Editorial

When Is The Best Time To Have Sex With A New Partner?





Sexual decision making is tricky for most of us. There are so many different factors at play — the excitement of being with someone new, social expectations, gender roles, not to mention sex drives and hormones!

Be clear with your partner about what you’re looking for in sleeping together. If you want your relationship to become more serious, tell your new partner that you'd like to sleep together, but that you want to have "the talk" first. If you’re just looking for a good time, you can say something like, “this doesn't have to mean anything other than what it is.”

You can be casual about it (no need to deliver a lengthy monologue about your five-year plan) while still being clear.

The answer obviously varies by relationship. What works in one relationship will not necessarily work in another which is why the dynamics of a relationship is what should determine what partners do in it, even beyond the issue of sex.

According to a study published in the Journal Of Sex Research, waiting to have sex or getting straight to it has no real impact on relationship happiness.

The study polled 11,000 unmarried people who were in “serious or steady” relationships and asked when they started having sex. The results of these were placed side by side their perceived relationship happiness.

51% of respondents say they waited a few weeks, 38% say they had sex on their first date or within a few weeks, and 11% had sex on their first date.



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